12-05-2010, 10:27 PM
Please do not be concerned about "bothering us," because this is what we are here for.
Assuming that there is nothing that's strictly forbidden in regard to the *location* of the funeral service, you may attend. Your concerns for the proper treatment of the deceased Jewish body are admirable, but if there are any problems in that regard, it's not known whether or not your mixing in at this time of the family's intense bereavment would have any positive effect. My advice is that you could contact a local Orthodox Rabbi, tell him about the situation, and ask him if he thinks it's warranted that he should contact the family to tactfully explain to them what should be done in the best spiritual interests of the body and soul of the dearly departed.
Assuming that there is nothing that's strictly forbidden in regard to the *location* of the funeral service, you may attend. Your concerns for the proper treatment of the deceased Jewish body are admirable, but if there are any problems in that regard, it's not known whether or not your mixing in at this time of the family's intense bereavment would have any positive effect. My advice is that you could contact a local Orthodox Rabbi, tell him about the situation, and ask him if he thinks it's warranted that he should contact the family to tactfully explain to them what should be done in the best spiritual interests of the body and soul of the dearly departed.