08-02-2008, 09:29 AM
(This post was last modified: 08-02-2008, 09:32 AM by Director Michael.)
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Hi Judith,
I see from your second post that you have a handle on the situation, and you know how it should be managed under the difficult circumstances. Since your live-in relative is an adult who's having a lot of personal difficulties, your helping him with just the basics of food, clothing and shelter, is indeed an act of charity. In your case, it is probably better to provide him directly with these things, instead of giving him cash, which he could then spend unwisely on other, non-essential things, so he would end up coming back again soon for more money. The best thing would be to help him improve his situation on a long-term basis, like getting him to personal or vocational counseling, and getting on a waiting list for a subsidized apartment of his own, where he could take on more personal responsibility.
Hi Judith,
I see from your second post that you have a handle on the situation, and you know how it should be managed under the difficult circumstances. Since your live-in relative is an adult who's having a lot of personal difficulties, your helping him with just the basics of food, clothing and shelter, is indeed an act of charity. In your case, it is probably better to provide him directly with these things, instead of giving him cash, which he could then spend unwisely on other, non-essential things, so he would end up coming back again soon for more money. The best thing would be to help him improve his situation on a long-term basis, like getting him to personal or vocational counseling, and getting on a waiting list for a subsidized apartment of his own, where he could take on more personal responsibility.